The basic rule in etiquette is to be gracious and respectful. If I am a guest in a  home and unconsciously notice that the table is set incorrectly, obviously the gracious thing to do is to do or say nothing.  It’s just like the dentist meeting someone and noticing their teeth or the landscaper noticing a yard that’s unattended.  It’s not a conscious thing they are doing.  That’s their business.  Since I teach dining skills,  I do notice the table setting.  It’s just an automatic thing.  I am never judging the person at all.  I would  never say or do anything in this situation.  The last thing I would want to do is insult my host.  Remember having etiquette is about being respectful.

Teaching your children how to set the table is a great lesson and can be a fun one.  This is a skill I teach in my classes, and the children really enjoy learning this.

Questions or comments are always appreciated.

Ginny Brown
The Etiquette School of Northeast Georgia
Hoschton, Georgia (Hamilton Mill area, Dacula, GA)
Email Ginny Brown
678-889-4814 office
770-296-4159 cell

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The night of the special dinner for my daughter was enlightening experience.  One of the guests was  quite loud and demanding of the waitstaff.  At one point, he was pointing at another guest in the restaurant making loud uncomplimentary remarks. A side note here – this behavior was not due to adult beverages. People at tables close to us were staring.  I was very embarrassed as was my daughter.  When the young man kept demanding something from the waitstaff, it created a very tense situation.  There was very little respect being shown to this waitperson who was giving us very good service.

In my etiquette classes, I teach my students to try different foods and how to handle something that you  may not be particularly fond of that is served.  That night a scene was caused when I ordered an appetizer that seemed to be distasteful to one of the  couples at our table.  This couple was older and you would assume that they would know how to act.  They didn’t.  They proceeded to make all sorts of inappropriate comments about the dish I had ordered and carried it so far that they were almost gagging at the table!  At this point, I  honestly was mortified that someone that age would behave in this manner.  Here again, people at the table behind us were staring as if they could not believe what was happening.  The couple at the table behind us were there to have a peaceful dining experience and because of the actions of the people at my table, they were not allowed to do this.

Part of having good etiquette and manners is being gracious.  It is not acceptable to point out to someone how inappropriate their manners are.  You lead and teach by example.  If someone asks you what is the correct or polite way to handle a situation, tell them.  They have asked you and obviously want to know.  If you belittle someone by telling them that their manners are atrocious, you are not displaying good  etiquette.

Questions or comments are always appreciated.

Ginny Brown
The Etiquette School of Northeast Georgia
Hoschton, Georgia (Hamilton Mill area, Dacula, GA)
Email Ginny Brown
678-889-4814 office
770-296-4159 cell

http://etiquette-blog.com