In that post, I talked about employers being negligent in acknowledging people’s applications for employment. In today’s economy, there are many more applicants than jobs. A lot of people apply for a job and never hear if their application is received or if someone else got the job, etc. I received an e-mail from a reader recently about her experience regarding this very matter. She applied for a job and didn’t hear anything back for awhile. She just assumed that she didn’t get the job, and that she wouldn’t hear from the employer. Well, she did! She received a very nice e-mail thanking her for her interest. Unfortunately, she didn’t get the job, but she was very pleased to have received some type of response. That way she knew that her application had been received and at least been considered. It really didn’t matter if the e-mail was personal or not. The important thing is that the employer took the time to correspond with their applicants.
I guess in a perfect world, this would happen all the time. Kudos to this company.
I guess the above title seems a little odd. Let me explain. I had an interesting experience recently. I was at a large function and was sitting at a table with people whom I’ve never met. They were contemporaries of mine. I started talking to one of the people, and they asked what my occupation was. I responded that I am an etiquette consultant, and that I teach manners. I wish you could have seen the expression on this person’s face. He was shocked that I teach manners. He was even more shocked when he asked who paid me to do this, and I answered that the parents did. For some reason, this person could not understand how this could happen. This was beyond their comprehension. To be honest , I bet he isn’t the only one to be shocked that there are people like me that teach manners.
I was very tactful and tried to further explain what I do. I said that today’s world is very different from the world in which we were raised. I further explained that a lot of families depend on two incomes. It is harder with both parents working to always have the quality time at dinner that they would like. Sometimes teaching manners gets lost in the cracks. Everyone’s schedule is quite busy these days. Lots of children are very involved with after school activities. It’s not that the parents’ intentions aren’t good. It’s just that sometimes there isn’t enough time to make everything happen. Parents want their children to have good manners, but sometimes parents are stretched so thin that it doesn’t always happen.
In my experience, I have had a lot of calls from young professionals asking about etiquette classes. One of the first things they tell me is that they weren’t taught dining skills at home, and now they are discovering how important these skills are in the business world. These young people say that teaching dining skills and other manners just wasn’t a big part of their growing up experience.
As you know, I am a strong believer in manners. I always told my children that manners will open doors to you that otherwise might not be opened. I believe this even more so today.